I got a phrase from a csi story. here goes! In his mind, Grissom saw himself gently lowering Catherine to his bed, her reddish gold hair fanning out on the pillow. He kissed her tenderly, then slowly removed her clothing, stopping to gaze in awe at each newly revealed part of her. He wanted their official first time to be easy and slow, passionate but not frantic, knowing that the time would come later for hard and fast and rough.